A wedding ceremony's added emotional punch comes from the couple's individual vows. Every time the bride and groom speak at the altar, it is nearly impossible to control your tears of joy. For the bride and groom as well as the guests, it is a singular, noteworthy, and unforgettable occasion. In this article you will learn how to write the most beautiful wedding vows. Let’s see all the steps?

STEP 1: ALL IDEAS ARE VALID

Write down all of your impressions of your loved one and any phrasing suggestions that occur to you before composing the final draft of your wedding vows. Several inquiries can provide guidance on the speech's subject matter:

What are hers/his best qualities?

What made you fall in love with her/him?

Which memory of you together is the most memorable and happy?

If there are several, which one would move you to be remembered?

Are there any phrases she/he tells you that could be used in the speech?

When did you find out you wanted to be with him/her forever?

How did you feel when you kissed for the first time?

What did you feel when you accepted/made the marriage proposal?

What do you like to do together: watch TV series, cook, travel?

What would you like to keep doing with him/her your whole life?

Do you have any theme songs? Is there a verse of them that could be used in vows?

Do you want to promise him/her something? What? Make real promises that you are willing to keep.

After writing everything down, select the best ideas with a highlighter pen.

STEP 2: SET A DEADLINE

I know that many grooms prefer the heat of the emotion of the big day to write their wedding vows, but this is a risky attitude. Unforeseen events can happen and there is not enough time to prepare your declaration of love calmly. In the case of brides, you still have to worry about hair, clothes and makeup.

Avoid stress! You can write the final version of your vows a few days before the wedding. On the day, if you feel it necessary, make some adjustments.

STEP 3: ALWAYS TAKE YOUR NOTES IN THE SAME PLACE

Reserve an exclusive space to write everything that comes to your mind: it can be in a notebook, in a computer file, in a folder inside your email, or even a text note on your cell phone. The important thing is to gather ideas in the same place, so that nothing gets lost and everything stays organised

STEP 4: DON'T OVERDO IT

Express yourself as you are. May the vows come from within, be natural and sincere. If you've never written poetry in your life, this is not the day to start. Use your own language, your own vocabulary. This doesn't mean they can say any nonsense, as there is a line between fun and ridiculous. Talk about the person in front of you and why you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

STEP 5: OPEN YOUR HEART

Read aloud everything you write. The more natural the speech, the more moving it will be. Use simple words, short sentences and objective paragraphs.

STEP 6: YOUR WORDS MUST EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS

Sincerity and authenticity are essential to touch the heart of your groom or bride. Imagine yourself in front of your love and think: if I could say just one sentence to that person, what would it be? You can start your text with that sentence. Then use your underlined notes to write the rest of the speech.

STEP 7: BE POSITIVE

For a moment, forget that your love has some "defects". Exalt his/hers qualities, all the good things you feel when you are around this person and why you are marrying him/her.

If you choose to say something more relaxed, don't say anything that could embarrass your sweetheart. Guests should smile with you, not at you.

STEP 8: KEEP IT SHORT

Long statements can tire guests and make them start thinking about the buffet. We want them to pay attention to every word you say. Therefore, avoid a statement longer than two minutes.

STEP 9: PRACTISE THE SPEECH

When the text is ready, practise it once, twice, three, ten times… Until it is recited spontaneously. Do this preferably facing the mirror.

STEP 10: TAKE A DEEP BREATH. IT'S TIME!

The long-awaited moment has arrived! Take a deep breath and make your statement looking into your lover's eyes. If you get nervous and stutter, don't worry. Everyone will already be emotional enough to find this gesture too cute. Take a break, smile and carry on!

EXTRA STEP: SURPRISE YOUR LOVED ONE

If you are from different cultures and speak different languages, be brave and, if you master your partner's language a little, dare to say your vows in the other's language.

And, last but not least: if you are looking for a professional to officiate the wedding and you have any questions, do not hesitate to ask him. He (or she) will have experience in the topic and will know what to advise..

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